I was only out of the dating game for a couple of years. I’m not old or anything it’s just the times really have changed. When I dated I didn’t look online I did the cliche club or bar kind of thing. But then again I was a waitress so it was easier to mingle. Plus I was 18 and going to malls and movie theaters was the ultimate you will get hit on hot spots.
After I met a guy while I was waitressing at work. We hit it off and got serious boom bam Knocked up. After the baby was born we went through dark and tough times. I just couldn’t deal with it anymore. I was only 22 but felt like I was trapped into a 35-year-old kind of relationship.
My significant other thought it was time to throw in the towel. Women should clean and cook. I wanted to find myself and learn who I am.
Anyway, I’m rambling. We called it quits and I soon enough jumped back into dating.
Now it was hard. I mean meeting someone new was super hard I worked at a beauty parlor at the time so finding a guy at work was impossible. Also not allowed to date clients.
So my co-workers gently guided me to the online dating app world. I downloaded Bumble and Tinder.
Let me tell you being a woman makes you popular. But also being a woman makes you almost turn lesbian on these apps. I saw so many dick pics and I’ll be the first to say they are not beautiful. After separating the spam sex pics from the normal guys, you phase out the ones that want to see you at night time, or get sexual, or don’t reply and then you’re down to about 5 potential dateable guys.
Well 5 for me at least.
The first guy I met came on too strong. We met at a cafe and before you know it I had a tongue down my throat and a finger weirdly in my ear. Is that a thing? Like an ear fetish or something? Well, whatever it was Number 1 it got me scared and number 2 my ear is no longer a virgin which is sad. I would want to loose my ear virginity to someone special LOL.
The second guy was beyond handsome. We got along well and our nights seemed like they never ended. We went everywhere Bowling, dinners, movies, arcades, etc. He admitted he liked me I said the same. We kept dating for a couple months and then we started talking. you know the real talks about life. Where we were headed, how we feel. We finally parted ways which deeply hurt me as he couldn’t accept I had a daughter.
This was the point I realized I was in limbo with my age and my life. I’m 22 in an age where I should be having fun meeting new people enjoying youth. But I can’t because I have a little one who depends on me.
The third guy was super hot stuff. We dated for a brief time of 2 weeks. I started to realize he just liked beer and partying. He didn’t have anything going for him. No ambitions or motivations. He just kept going out. I needed someone more on a path.
The fourth guy. Oh god. No. we met at a nice restaurant. We had good food and then he said, “So what’s it going to take for you to take me home”. I had to bolt after that. But he wouldn’t let me go. He insisted on driving me home. I didn’t want him to know where I lived so I called a cab and deleted his number. Eventually had to block it as the dick photos were sent with the caption “I know you want this”. No, I do not want your penis in my mouth. If it’s long and brown and it’s going in my mouth you bet your ass it’s an Oh Henry Chocolate bar.
Finally to the fifth guy. He was a very cute guy. We met at another coffee shop and then our next date was at a restaurant. He seemed so sweet and nice. Then when we went to my place he started pinching me. Then punching my arm, and then biting me. Then it turned to pushing me on the floor and giving me Indian burns. A few confused moments later he told me he’s into SnM. He continues with “is it ok if I punch you in the face”. Like is ok if I punched you in the balls? I had to make an excuse for him and his 50 shades of HELL NO to leave, forever.
So all in all a very interesting experience. But Tinder and Bumble weren’t for me. But it might be different for you. Good luck on your search!